What then is the reality. By Cletus R.N Chimaobi

 I STAND TO BE CORRECTED IF NECESSARY.

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Church wedding and court wedding is not biblical principles of marriage and it has made many African couples to become a debtor and even made some to sell their valuable properties just to meet up with the requirements to please people and to appear religious fulfilled.

Am not against anyone from taking total responsibility of his or her decision.

 Decision of choice making is a freedom that has been granted right from the beginning of the world but knowledge is power, it makes you appear different among your kind.

Jesus only attended traditional wedding in his earthly days and right from the old testament,  traditional wedding has been existing before white and court wedding" scriptural references ---Gen_30:20 And Leah said, God hath endued me with a good dowry ; now will my husband dwell with me, because I have born him six sons: and she called his name Zebulun.

Gen_34:12 Ask me ever so much dowry and [marriage] gift, and I will give according to what you tell me; only give me the girl to be my wife.

Exo_22:16 If a man seduces a virgin not betrothed and lies with her, he shall surely pay a dowry for her to become his wife.

Exo_22:17 If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equivalent to the dowry of virgins.

1Sa_18:25 Saul said, Say this to David, The king wants no dowry but a hundred foreskins of the Philistines, to avenge himself of the king’s enemies. But Saul thought to make David fall by the Philistines’ hands. (This is King David paying dowry) Jacob wanted to marry, and the prescribed a procedure for him to pay a dowry which consisted of working for 7 years for each wife and After the years were completed, the women became his legally wife not somebody he was engaged to.what about father Abraham,the father of faith and friend of GOD? How did he get a wife for his son of promise? What did he consider as actual marriage ceremony? Gen 24:4 explains that better, he sent his oldest servant Eliezer of Damascus with a rich dowry to the girls’ family. In exchange for the dowry, he was given Rebecca to be taken to Isaac as wife which he did and succeeded getting her as a wife to His master's son, now What happened immediately Rebecca arrived at Isaac’s doorstep? The answer is found in Gen 24:64-67 . He took her into his mum’s tent and perfected the union which was started by the paying of a dowry by the servant.In Exodus_22:16 God himself explains that if a boy has pre-marital sex with a girl, in certain instances, he is to be forced to marry her..in some region if a girl got pregnant out of wedlock her parents will force both of them to marry each other and that helps in many ways.

1. It helps the younger ones to avoid sex outside marriage because no one will like to bring disgrace to his or her family.in Exo 22:16 in GOD’s own words is to pay the dowry. So even when GOD introduced the law through Moses  he did not do away with the practice of dowries and the law is the shadow of the reality which is found in the New Testament Matthew 3:15.

 What then is the reality? 

1.Paying of dowry and the blessings of the girl’s family releasing her to the man that has done the necessary things that's required.

In traditional wedding the both parents of the new couples will bless their children by sanctifying them publicly as husband and wife to go and multiply" that their children will surround their table" handsome boys and girls.

 There's nothing like for better for worse cause that's a course from a man made religion in Africa" white wedding.

In a traditional wedding the experienced parents of the both couples, will advice them to maintain their roles as days breaks out, the mother and father of the birde will say to their daughter to respect her husband, to see him as her father and husband,to feed him well and never deny him sex because it will make him to look outside, to remain calm when her husband is talking because men doesn't like to be disrespected and never to share her husband weakness to anybody outside because nobody is perfect, here come the mother to remind her that she has been married to their father for years not that he's perfect but because she knows that nobody is perfect and choose to remain salient whenever there's misunderstanding between them. Then the parent of the groom will advice him to take care of his wife and over look some actions, and provide for his family and never to keep late outsider the house, never to reject his wife food even if he's not hungry because it make women to think maybe their food is not good enough or someone somewhere is feeding home on his way back home and that thought can destroy a home, never to give anyone opportunity to insult his wife , never to share his wife weakness with family or friends, never to shout on her in public or lay his hands on her but always to correct her in love because a family that prayers together stays together.man if you don't have money for the so called white wedding and she's not ready to accept only traditional wedding then forget about her cause they're a lot of beautiful trees inside forest waiting for one that will even appreciate her beauty and allow her to bear his name as a married woman.

 Ladies please accept him and go for the traditional wedding cause there's nothing you will do under the earth that is new so stop try to impress people cause marriage is not a day journey.

 white wedding is another man's tradition wedding, in Africa we address oyibo as white people and that's why their traditional wedding is called white wedding and nothing more. while black wedding been the traditional wedding"is our own tradition because we're of black skin.and they name their own wedding after their skin color" white wedding"which is not scriptural.the only wedding that's scriptural is traditional wedding.i believe one day black will wake up and face the reality and stop accumulating  things that are not necessarily.

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Cletus R.N Chimaobi.